Feeling overwhelmed with your fertility to-do list?

Sep 13

Hey mama-bear,

I was on the phone with a client the other day who had just returned home from a holiday. We’ve been working together for a couple of months and it’s around this amount of time when I start seeing real change. Change in their minds which starts to manifest in their outer world.

She softly and slowly articulated to me, “On most vacations...my husband and I try to fit in everything. We don’t want to miss a thing, so we pack our days with things to do. But this vacation was different.” She says, “I decided to slow down... I decided to take my time and enjoy the city. Instead of seeing 10 places, we decided to see 5. And in the end, I some how ended up seeing and experiencing more.”

As a Life Coach, hearing this kind of inspiration from clients sends chills down my body and goose bumps all over my arms. Not only because I’m stoked to hear she’s doing well (obvi), but because she’s tapping into a deeper level of living and it inspires the hell outta me. Because that level of living in contagious.

How did she end up seeing more, but did less?

How can you begin to slow down and do less, but actually end up getting more done?

It depends on what your definition of more is.

When you become more present and content with your life right now, regardless of circumstance, you trade your definition of more from quantity to quality.

Because it’s not about “what” you’re doing. It’s about “how” you’re doing it.

Instead of having 10 things on your to-do list, have 5 things. This automatically gives you permission to fill those 5 activities with presence and attention, because the pressure of time is off and you can be here. Now.

The common misconception is that when you slow down, you’ll get less done. But I’m a firm believer that it almost doesn’t even matter what you’re doing – as long as you’re there when you’re doing it (and not in your head). Because when you’re present, you’re in connection with the higher intelligence and create a bridge for that creative energy to work through you.

So if you’re feeling resentful of all the things you think you have to do to get pregnant, take a good step back and ask yourself:

Would I be happier if I cut this list in half and decided to fill what's left with presence?

Here are some examples:

Put your phone on airplane mode while meditating and don’t set a timer. Actually, lose the phone altogether. And then lose yourself in the meditation.
Bless the vitamins and food before you eat it. Show appreciation by mindfully preparing and eating it. Not only are they helping you build a healthy baby, but they give you instant energy that you get to enjoy today.
Go for a walk. But before you do, ask nature a question. The only way you’ll get an answer is by becoming present (aka. becoming one) with the higher intelligence of nature. Don't even try understanding this with the mind. It can only be felt.

You see the difference? It's a whole new way of experiencing your life.

Consciously choose quality over quantity. It's not about what you do. It's about how you do it. *This* is what matters most.

All my love,

Xo Spenser

“Once she stopped rushing through life, she was amazed at how much more life she had time for.” – Unknown