Listen to this if you call yourself "too controlling" to get pregnant
Hey Mama-bear,
I used to think I was “too controlling” — until I noticed my then 6 month old screaming until his face turned red, when gravity stole his ball away.
His little brain was thinking, “Nooooo…. I don’t want this to be happening! I want my ball back! Why don’t I have more controlll!”
It’s normal for us to want control. We were born wanting control.
It’s an important part of the human design. It keeps us well and alive.
But it becomes a bit more nuanced as you enter adulthood and find yourself in life’s challenges.
The fertility journey has a knack for making you feel more out of control than you’ve ever felt in your life. “Why can’t I control what I’m supposed to do?”
The ego hates this. And it tends to double down when this happens. “Work HARDER. Push HARDER. Research HARDER. Don’t leave any stone unturned!!!” Which if we’re being honest, makes us feel even farther away from the goal.
In today’s podcast, I’m going to discuss the topic of control to:
Alleviate all the self-judgment you have around being “too controlling”
Offer a new solution when things really do start feeling too out-of-control and you need to feel like you have a handle on your life and fertility journey.
Introduce a reframe around this topic of women being “too much.” Maybe this label of “too controlling” is more shit the patriarchy pours on us to keep us people pleasing as opposed to asking for what we really want?
Spenser xo
Listen to the full episode:
PS. Fertility Mind-Body Mastery is a space to reframe the ways you’ve been treating yourself on this journey. It’s now open for enrollment!
I spent years TTC thinking I was “too controlling.” Judging, blaming and shaming so much of myself, when I could have been offering myself compassion for this 100% conditioned way of thinking. It isn’t your fault for coming down on yourself, month after month. The only way we’re going to flip the switch on all the ways you beat yourself up while TTC, is learning how to respond to yourself in a way that:
1. Makes you feel safe and not judged for being who you are.
2. Small, doable, uncomplicated steps on how to create a ripple of change towards more self-compassion.
This inevitably creates a mind-body connection that increases fertility and makes life wayyyyy more fun to be in. Click here to apply to be in the program. Because you’re ready to create real, permanent change towards baby.
