It's time to take your power back.
Hey mama-bear,
It’s crazy how we want a baby to create more love in our lives…
Yet, we are withholding love from ourselves until “it” happens.
I know you’re not doing this on purpose. I know that this is what you were taught about how life works:
To hold back love and acceptance from yourself and your body now. To not be worthy of celebration until “it” happens. Keep this release of love, acceptance and celebration locked-up inside of you… and you will be more deserving as a result of your sacrifice.
But let me prove how backwards this bull shit belief is.
Let me prove how fast your life can change after you let it go.
And let me show you how to do it.
Listen to my new podcast below:
How to take your power back.
It’s time mama-bear.
Xo Spenser
Listen to the full episode:
PS. Click here to buy your $27 ticket to the Future of Fertility Virtual Retreat. This is an incredibly unique opportunity that you do not want to miss, for an insanely low investment. Can’t wait to see you there.
Full Episode Transcript:
Welcome to the Fertile Ground podcast with Spenser Brassard. The only podcast that teaches you how to get your mind and body on board so you can get your baby on board. And now here's your host mind-body fertility expert, and certified life coach Spenser Brassard.
Hey mama bear. Welcome to a brand new podcast. These days, besides when I'm working in my office, I am spending almost all of my time and my weekends outside. My son Beck is completely obsessed with being outside. If you follow me on Instagram, you would know that. It's where he is happiest and most content and at peace. We've been blowing bubbles; I just bought him some new sport balls. He loves playing with rocks and sometimes putting them in his mouth, which is very scary to this mama. Um, and we take many walks in our neighborhood. I don't know about you guys, but like, spring is such a special time of year for me being in Canada. It's like AHHHHH, pure relief. And I really love everything about it. The yard work, planting flowers; I have a little raised garden bed for my veggies in my backyard. It's the perfect time for new beginnings.
So, I have got some big news for you guys that you are not going to want to miss. I am hosting a virtual fertility retreat on June 11th and to 12th. I've been thinking about hosting a virtual fertility retreat for a while now, but I always knew that I wanted to do it in spring because of what this time of year symbolizes, right, new life. So what is this whole thing about and why do you care? Why is this going to be a complete game changer for you on your fertility journey and in your life?
So this fertility retreat will be a series of fertility enhancing workshops. Self-care practices. And amazing conversations with other women, previous and current clients who have had a ton of ups and downs on the fertility journey. Some of these women have their babies, some are pregnant and some are on the journey.
You'll hear from women from all different sides and feel so inspired and hopeful after listening to them. I think it is vital to hear other women's trying to conceive stories because so often we just see the testimonial, we just see the end result. We don't learn where they were. AKA. We can't relate as much. We just see the success story and think that's not me, but if we learn where they were, we can relate and see ourselves in their shoes. Um, and then when we just see the testimonial, we don't learn how they overcame their limiting beliefs in their story around their fertility journey. We don't learn the baby steps it took to get them out of suffering and into freedom. And these are practical tools that you are going to learn and apply in your own journey.
So we're going to be chatting about the mindset it took them to free themselves from the aspects of the journey. Like, for example, you know, when you get a fertility diagnosis, when you are attached to how it's going to happen and how they started to lean into trust and magic and how they started to build trust and magic, and what this looks and feels like. It's important for you to learn what this looks and feels like, because it is important for you to learn that this is possible for you. Like, I totally got, you know, seeing all those testimonials online or hearing about people's announcements, even if it's been years, and thinking that's not for me. But this fertility retreat is going to help you believe that you can 100% to be a success story. And that these testimonials are not just reserved for other people that you see on websites, right? Or blogs or Instagram posts. They are real life people. And you're going to hear from them in this amazing retreat. It's going to liberate you from any of the shame and isolation you're feeling to hear these women and know that your thoughts and feelings are normal and valid. We're also going to show you how to move through them, right. And I'm going to coach you through them and how I coach them and what specific mindset shifts change everything for them.
If you feel like you're the only one struggling on the fertility journey. Then I'm going to be really blunt here and say that you're suffering alone for no reason. And these women will prove it. I called the retreat The Future of Fertility because the fertility industry, it has to change. And I want to be a part of this change and being a part of it is starting the fucking conversation around it. Right. But the only way to change it is to become aware of it. The cultural focus on fertility is all about the body and the physical aspects of the journey. I'm not denying that this is definitely a big part of it, but only focusing on this side of the journey leaves you stressed, miserable, and angry at your body.
When I did this, it left me completely miserable and was especially frustrating. When I thought I was eating everything perfectly and restricting my lifestyle entirely. And over-focus on the body also encourages the cultural obsession with diet culture - needing to lose weight, and supports the belief that your body's not healthy, accepted or good enough until fill in the blank, until pregnant, until size whatever.
Right? I mean, fuck. Women are raised to constantly disapprove of their bodies and I've had had enough of it. So of course, a huge shift here occurs when you start to shift the obsession of the body and focus more on the mind. When you change the thoughts you have about your body and becoming aware of the cultural conditioning, we have a knowingly inherited and, you know, we don't even realize we're doing this. We don't even realize that we're constantly sending the message to our body that it's not enough until. It's not enough until I've reached that amount of weight. It's not enough until I'm free of my symptoms. There's a way around this. Maybe you were thinking well, if I don't focus all of my intention on diet, ovulation days, timing sex perfectly, my vitamin intake and the details of my fertility treatments.
Then what do I do instead? I remember thinking that and you're going to learn the answer to this in the virtual retreat. But ultimately you're going to learn how to feel in control of your fertility journey without micromanaging the shit out of yourself, restricting yourself and sacrificing your joy.
Now here's something that you might not know. Mama bear, the fertility industry, like much of healthcare includes racism, ageism, and sizeism, which all leads to stress and stigma. Black women are twice as likely as white women to suffer from fertility struggles, according to the most recent data at the CDC and are 50% less likely to seek out care.
I've read multiple studies and heard from clients that there is an even bigger stigma for black women around fertility struggles because they feel they're supposed to get pregnant easily and be hyper fertile. From an ageism perspective, a woman's age can restrict access to fertility treatments, yet in 2004 the US national summary and fertility clinic report reported pregnancies and births above age 42 for the first time ever.
Now, there was only a small amount of cycles in this age range that went through treatment. So women in a higher age are denied treatment, how are we supposed to improve the data and outcomes? I also have many clients whose doctors told them to lose weight if they want to get pregnant. But according to Linda Bacon, the author of the book Health At Any Size, which I highly recommend looking into, if you're, you know, really struggling with sizeism or been told things about your weight from doctors. But Linda Bacon says that it's the doctor's job to treat the patient in front of them.
Mama bear. It's time to treat the woman, not the numbers. This kind of stigma and discrimination puts women at a higher risk for depression and anxiety. Not only does this kind of treatment leave you filled with discouragement in your body, but your mind is now riddled with doubt, regret of the past, and pure panic about the future.
When research shows that when mind and body work together, it more than doubles your chances of success at a healthy, happy pregnancy. So I am putting on this retreat because it is time to take our power back. We need to learn how to advocate for ourselves and learn new ways beyond body shaming and diet culture. To think and feel as though we are making huge progress, taking big leaps, and building belief towards the dream of becoming a mother. And I know you're willing to do what it takes. All you need is a roadmap forward, which is exactly what you're going to get inside of the Future of Fertility virtual retreat.
Otherwise, you'll keep fighting for something outside of yourself. When you're a 100% capable of giving this to yourself. Now hear me out... from a purely fertility, you know, perspective. Why is it important to take your power back? Like from, from the energy of fertility, from the mind-body perspective? Like, is this just taking your power back so that you can feel empowered, you know, kind of, is it just to feel better? And I think a huge aha would be to even realize first in the first place that you've given your power away and, you know, you've given it away when you're waiting for an outside circumstance to tell you that you've done enough, or that you are enough. In this case, it's of course getting pregnant and only then will you receive your A-plus?
But the question is the A plus from who? You gotta admit to yourself that you're doing this, you got to realize that somewhere down the line, you decided that needing other people's approval, fitting in, religion, people pleasing, hustling, etcetera, came before what you thought of yourself. It started to become about what your life looked on paper versus you being really satisfied with yourself in your own life.
I didn't know that I was doing this for the longest time. I realized on my fertility journey, you know, for an, for an example that I had actually had some religious conditioning, you know, being brought up Catholic in school, that in, you know, in a church that told me that I would get pregnant. Once I figured out the secret path, then God would grant me my baby. Once I discovered this narrow, hidden path and that God was withholding this from me until I sacrificed enough pleasure and chose discipline over fun. I was giving my power to religion and I know in my heart now, and it took me some time to realize that my higher power would never withhold worth from me.
These beliefs were super hidden and super false. When you're feeling enough and noting your progress and feeling worthy of a beautiful life now, regardless of pregnancy, you are living from abundance and this will only bring more of this into your life. I honestly think that what matters like most in this journey, and I hate to bring it down to just something so simple, but, I think that this is what matters most in life and what shapes our fertility journeys and our lives in general, after the baby is here, right. Is how we perceive ourselves our level of confidence, whether or not we, I know, corny as it sounds, love and appreciate ourselves. And when we're giving our power and worth to an outside circumstance and we're withholding it until that outside circumstances happens, we are just not being kind to ourselves and we are living from lack. Do you think you're lazy for not doing more and a failure because you haven't figured this journey out yet? Do you think you're less than that person who got pregnant? Maybe you feel you're making progress and you're, you know, you're like, oh my God, things are finally working out.
But then you get your period and allow all of that to remove your own momentum and progress. You take that as proof of not being enough. If this is you, then get your tickets to the virtual retreat now. You don't have to feel like a failure at the end of the month and believing that you are is actually what's getting in the way of what you really want.
The investment into this fertility retreat is only $27. That's half the price of a pedicure or a lunch out and be honest, it's less than your last Amazon order. It's half the price of your ovulation tests that you think are giving you control when the actual healthy sense of control that will make a difference is found inside of this retreat.
This is an experience that lasts the whole entire weekend and new beliefs that will last a lifetime for only $27. It is a total steal for the insane value you're receiving in return. Grab a hold of this opportunity. It's literally everything you've been asking for. And we'll answer all of those constant annoying questions you have around why is this happening and how to change things in your favor.
And I, when I say annoying questions, it's because, oh my God, it's like, you, you're not annoying. It's just the like constant nagging questions of why is this happening? Why is this happening to me? Why does it happen to other people? Right? So at the retreat, we will first validate your feelings being that we've been culturally conditioned to feel this way, right?
You're going to see that how you're feeling is perfectly normal. You're not the only one with these thoughts. Your shame is lying to you. And then second, we're going to change those thoughts and beliefs about who you are and what you're capable of. You're going to see firsthand how other women did it.
You're going to learn how Cammie had her baby boy, after three miscarriages, you're going to learn how Claire is finally pregnant after multiple rounds of IVF. You're going to learn how Ashley, Chloe, and Grace took their power back. You're going to learn how Aimee Raupp helped me get pregnant working on my gut.
My body believes in letting go of the guilt and resentment I had around food and fertility. And you're going to learn through three different workshops with me personally, on how to make fertile as fuck decisions. Hint, it's not by eating more kale, how to be a part of the mind-body fertility revolution, and how to overcome your fear of failure.
Right? A lot of perfectionism thinking in this, I'm also interviewing my husband to chat about the partner's point of view on the journey, for example, how we kept the pleasure alive, even though it's so easy for it to fall by the wayside when you're trying to conceive. You can ask any questions you want throughout each session.
We'll have ample opportunity to question these women that you're going to be hearing from, there will be a guided meditation, which is incredibly powerful when you gather women together to do a meditation and even a virtual yoga class. Again, all for $27. It's crazy value. The result at the end of this virtual retreat is a mind and body that is finally not at war with each other. The result of this retreat will be a mind and a body that finally come together that learn how to surrender to each other. That decide that they are a team that will now, coupled with your spirit, work together in peace to create new life. This is not wishful thinking. If you don't believe me, go to my website, read my testimonials, better yet, come to the retreat, hear it for yourself. I think it is so amazing and speaks volumes that these women being interviewed on the retreat are taking time out of their day to share with you what they learn, because they know what it's like to suffer. And they know the small steps it takes to get out of the complete illusion that you're not enough just as you are.
The retreat kicks off on Friday, June 11th and runs all day Saturday, June 12th. And you will have the opportunity to be a part of a bonus day on Sunday, June 13th. Aren't you worthy of a weekend dedicated to you. Haven't you been wanting to create more time for self reflection, for self care? Grab your laptop, your favorite journal, your fancy pen, a delicious coffee or tea, and gather with women all around the world to celebrate your resilience, your persistence, and your fierce determination to become a mother and to discover your worth as a female, as a woman in this process. This is a gift of connection and compassion sitting right in front of you. I really hope that you take advantage of this unique opportunity and it's all in the name of love. Love for yourself. Love for your future baby and love for your life now. So go to my website and just grab your spot. It'll take literally two seconds to secure it, then it's done and then get super fucking excited because literally, I don't know if I've ever been more excited for something, because I'm just so excited to gab with my girls about the one thing I'm most passionate about and transforms lives at the same time, like, come on. I've literally never been more excited for anything. It's going to be amazing. I can't wait to deliver this magic to you. All right. Go grab your ticket. Can't wait to see there. Lots of love. Bye.