Confirmation Bias and how it can affect fertility
Hey Mama bear,
I watched the Super Bowl with my family a couple of weekends ago and I noticed that the members of my family that were cheering for San Francisco (Not Taylor Swift’s BF’s team) had to go on and on about how much air time Taylor got and how she was annoyingly interacting with her friends. (HOW DARE SHE?! 😂)
Me, my mom and my husband were cheering for Kansas City. So we loved watching her celebrate and enjoy herself. She was acting like a completely normal human being watching someone they love play an important 🏈game.
What the members of my family have is called a: Confirmation Bias.
This means, that human brains actively search for evidence to validate their current beliefs.
IE, “I want Kansas City to lose = Taylor Swift is annoying.” Even if she’s really not. But our brains and our egos would rather be right than see the truth.
A confirmation bias plays out often in the fertility journey and can be a very sneaky, subconscious way to resist the change that brings us closer to our babies.
FOR EXAMPLE ⬇️
Let’s say you have the super common perfectionist belief that: “I’m not doing enough to get pregnant.”
Despite this belief, you start making small changes in your life to improve your mental and physical health. You’re more present, you have more energy, you’re more connected with your partner, and you’ve even started going on daily walks. You feel sooo good and at peace. But then… you get your period. Even though you have evidence in your mind and body that you’ve never felt better and you’re making so much progress, your locked-in confirmation bias of “I’m not doing enough.” kicks into full gear. And you fall back to square 1.
The confirmation bias belief is what actually runs the show. Because it will always look for evidence to be RIGHT, instead of letting go of the ego and entering into the uncertain territory of pregnancy.
This is SO IMPORTANT to become aware of, so I recorded a podcast on it: Confirmation bias and how it affects fertility.
And I even share ways to change this, in simple, super-powerful steps.
Please enjoy.
Xo Spenser
PS. These confirmation bias beliefs are sneaky but definitely not impossible to uncover and change. We do it every week inside of my program ⭐️Fertility Mind-Body Mastery ⭐️ Need some help uncovering those old, ancient beliefs that aren’t even yours anymore? Apply for the program here. My brain is kind of amazing at spotting them and changing them so that you can increase your happiness and your fertility. We’d love to have you!
